Lately I have been, what some might call, obsessed with Kelsea Ballerini’s song “Miss Me More.” If you haven’t heard it, the song is about a girl who *thinks* she is gonna miss this guy when he breaks up with her, but finds out that what she actually misses is all the things about herself that she gave up to make him happy like her red lipstick, her high heels, and most importantly her independence.
This song really resonates with me, even now when I am single and haven’t recently ended a romantic relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been in that relationship; and if this song had been available four-and-a-half years ago there is a good chance this may have been my recovery song instead of the much more vengeful lyrics “You’re one bridge I’d like to burn, bottle up the ashes, smash the urn” from The Band Perry.
Once I had lost myself, and my independence, it took soooo long for me to get back to “normal”–well, normal for me; and I think, sometimes, I’m still worried that it might happen again. That I’ll meet a guy and I’ll want so desperately for him to like me back, that I’ll start changing, start becoming the person I think he wants me to be.
There is a fine line between compromising who you are and accommodating those around you, and Kelsea’s song reminds me of that. It makes me feel strong, it makes me feel happy, but mostly, it makes me feel confident in who I am, and the idea that I shouldn’t have to change for anyone.
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Krista M. Doud 